In The Midst Of Grief

“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.” -Henri Nouwen
Loss can be a hard thing to navigate and deal with. For many, it is not trying to take it one day at a time, but rather one moment at a time. As a part of loss, people grieve over what they have lost and possibly would’ve had. Grief can be complicated, and the severity of the loss impacts the intensity of feelings a person will feel. Grief will last a lifetime with emotions coming and going.
Today, I find myself in the midst of grief. The day before Thanksgiving, my love, my life partner unexpectedly died. He was my best friend, my rock. I sit here today, on our anniversary, missing him dearly. My life is forever changed. But, through these past days, do you want to know what enables me to keep going? The answer lies within God, family, and friends. They allow me to cry, vent, express all of my raw emotions as they come. As the quote says above, the best thing you can offer a grieving person is a listening ear.
In dedication to the person who meant the world to me, I wrote a poem for him.
Bryan…
You came into my life, offering a simple preview;
A glimpse into the amazing soul I would grow to know.
Thank you for being you.
The gentleness and depths of your soul that you let me see through,
You allowed me entrance to witness the light within.
Thank you for being you.
Your wit, your humor, your laughter, all contagious.
You brought a smile to my face, put a pep in my voice,
You made me happy, to which you knew.
Thank you for being you.
Your calmness, patience, and listening ear, provided a space for me to vent,
And even shed a tear or two.
There is nothing you wouldn’t do.
Thank you for being you.
Without your presence, the world is at a loss.
Your magnetic personality will forever be missed.
For all of this is true,
Thank you for being you.
I love you!

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