Playing With Grief

Grief is a constant game, where it is the opponent, and the inflicted person is on the defense; trying to defend their sanity. Grief goes up and down in waves, making a person feel like they are losing their mind or “going crazy.” How can something shake a person so much, causing them to lose their balance in life? Well, it is because when we lose something or someone, it causes us to question the stability of everything around us, including ourselves. We start to second guess ourselves, actions, and life as a whole. Things do not seem fair, and are quite unbearable at times. Grief never really goes away, you just learn to deal with it. Over time, it does get easier to live each day, but, the grief is still there. It is a part of you, and has forever changed your outlook..
Although grief is universal, the way it is expressed varies. Some people cry, some people don’t. Some people are open about their grief, while others like to keep it private. The way you grieve is your process. The important part is that you are allowing yourself to feel, and not avoiding what is within.
Today, I became annoyed with a comment former basketball player, Charles Barkley said in regards to current Celtics basketball player, Isaiah Thomas’ grief. For those of you who are not aware, Mr. Thomas’ sister died in a car accident a day or so before Easter. Shocked and grief stricken, Mr. Thomas decided to play in the playoffs, scheduled on Easter. He was seen crying before the game, and rightfully so, he just lost his sister. Apparently, Mr. Barkley disapproves of the Celtics player showing that type of emotion. Mr. Barkly said he felt uncomfortable for the basketball player, and his crying was not a good look. Well, Mr. Barkley, who are you to judge the way someone grieves? The fact that Mr. Thomas made it on the court that day, is amazing. The fact that he was open enough to share his vulnerability with others is amazing. The fact that he scored 33 points is amazing. You see, grief can be debilitating, and it takes great effort to make it through the day, especially when the loss is so fresh. I don’t know if Mr. Barkley realizes this, but with his comments, he is creating more hesitation in others, especially men, in expressing their feelings. I choose not to follow Mr. Barkley’s example, but rather, the young basketball player, who stood up against adversity, by continuing to play the sport he loves. What do you think? Prominent Pathways, LLC would love to hear your thoughts. Please send us a tweet.

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